[Brian_K_White]

It really depends who's saying it to you at the time.

It's true that being able to cope instead of fall apart is a useful power for you.

It's also true that anyone with any form of authority over you would love nothing better than for you to never demand anything.

[sanderjd]

Yes, but (and I may be saying something different than Huang here) demanding things is different than expecting them. The difference is in your response if the outcome is "no". Anger or serenity?