| > For example if you are wronged as a child from parent. It is equally true that when a parent does not wrong a child, that can't be erased either. Everything that has actually happened is carved in stone in terms of material history. What is mutable is our interpretation of that past. > You aren't "holding" onto anything you can accept they did their best it just wasn't good enough and there just isn't any way to "reverse" that and change your childhood. It sounds like you are holding onto the idea that there is some alternate timeline you could have lived, some superior, irreplaceable childhood that has been take from you. You're not wrong. But the amount of time you spend ruminating on that fact and deciding what it says about who you are today is largely under your own control. > there just isn't any way to "reverse" that and change your childhood. There isn't any way to reverse anything in life. The only thing we have any agency over is in which direction you go forward. |