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by alecco 836 days ago
No mention of the dimension and consequences of what to forgive. Forgetting to take out the trash is not the same as sleeping with somebody else.

> "Once a cheater, always a cheater." [...] Someone is three times more likely to cheat if they have cheated in the past.

https://www.du.edu/news/once-cheater-always-cheater-du-study...
2 comments
marcosdumay 836 days ago
The article has quite a way of completely misunderstanding the term it defines right away.

It's not about staying with the person and not expecting to be cheated again. Forgiveness is about whether you break up and stay angry for the rest of your life, or break up and stop caring about it.

One of those is trivially and obviously counterproductive, with no upside at all.

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jprete 836 days ago
I was bothered that the OP didn't make this distinction properly in their post. They instead gave the false dichotomy of "forgive and risk being stabbed" or "hold a grudge".

Who knows. Probably it was just AI-generated incoherent blogspam.

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alecco 836 days ago
> Forgive (Cooperate): David forgives Samantha, giving her another chance, and tries to rebuild trust.

giving her another chance

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marcosdumay 836 days ago
He defines the word just bellow that. The definition doesn't include giving her another chance.

The definition he gives is aligned with the common usage on the philosophical and religious contexts. The way he uses all around the article is aligned with the popular usage and has a completely different meaning.

Nobody will ever go claiming forgiving people by the popular meaning is something you should always do. It's patently stupid.

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alecco 836 days ago
Also, OP is bland blogspam by some kind of new age anonymous blog.
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