[pooper]

> at one point many years ago my grandmother decided that butterflies were my wife's "thing" (they aren't, we're not sure how this happened),

This is a wild shot in the dark but do you:

1. Live near Westminster, Colorado 2. Have had your grandmother visit you several times 3. And each time your wife took her to visit the butterfly pavilion?

[reidacdc]

Sorry for the late reply, but no to all three. We lived in Chicago when this became a thing. My grandmother did live in Denver (well, Aurora) though.