[rhelz]

The point that we shouldn’t speculate too much about the implications of Neanderthal brain size is well taken.

But IMHO it applies just as well when trying to show that Neanderthal’s language was super different from ours. We know virtually nothing about the evolution of language in our own species, let alone another species.

They were different for sure, but the fact that we regularly mated with and formed families with Neanderthals and their first few generation generations means to me that the difference wasn’t that much. I’d go so far as to that absent any reason to believe otherwise, the default presumption should be that we’d be close to equals with them in these matters.

[nicklecompte]

> They were different for sure, but the fact that we regularly mated with and formed families with Neanderthals and their first few generation generations means to me that the difference wasn’t that much.

To be clear there's only genetic evidence of admixture, not any evidence that humans and Neanderthals actually coexisted as families. Mating between humans and Neanderthals definitely wasn't "regular" since there's not actually very much neanderthal DNA in modern humans. Maybe we had an enormous number of infertile children, but I don't think human hunter-gatherers would survive that since rearing and raising a child is so costly.

In particular there's very good reason to suspect that we didn't form families with Neanderthals in the way you are suggesting[1]:

> No evidence of Neanderthal mitochondrial DNA has been found in modern humans. This suggests that successful Neanderthal admixture happened in pairings with Neanderthal males and modern human females. Possible hypotheses are that Neanderthal mitochondrial DNA had detrimental mutations that led to the extinction of carriers, that the hybrid offspring of Neanderthal mothers were raised in Neanderthal groups and became extinct with them, or that female Neanderthals and male Sapiens did not produce fertile offspring. [...] As shown in an interbreeding model produced by Neves and Serva (2012), the Neanderthal admixture in modern humans may have been caused by a very low rate of interbreeding between modern humans and Neanderthals, with the exchange of one pair of individuals between the two populations in about every 77 generations.

Even if it was 1 pair in 5 generations, that's simply not high enough to suggest a strong common humanity based on admixture alone. Pulling this all together, I don't think there's any real evidence that humans and Neanderthals co-parented or had any other real integration between their societies. There was just occasional admixture.

I am sure there's a paper somewhere but I've never read anyone actually rule out what is IMO the simplest explanation: Neanderthal men occasionally raped modern human women and the child was raised among modern humans (the reverse situation explains why children with Neanderthal mothers and modern human fathers would have been raised among Neanderthals).

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interbreeding_between_archaic_...

[rhelz]

// not any evidence that humans and Neanderthals actually coexisted as families. //

There is not much evidence, but it's going too far to say there's no evidence. The evidence is their genetic heritage in us. There are many ways that that genetic heritage could have got there, ranging from rape to adoption to romeo-and-juliet style romances. The genetic admixture is evidence for all these routes.

// IMHO the simplest explanation: Neanderthal men occasionally raped modern human women //

That's one way it could happen, but we don't have anywheres near enough evidence to conclude that was the only way it happened, or even that it was the most common way it happened. All other hypothesis are still on the table.

And, certainly the first generation hybrids were welcomed in human families. Don't forget, in the Pleistocene, there was no such thing as being alive without being a member of a family.