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The idea of having a meeting about a rejection is not just gracefully saying okay thanks it's actually about you are now given an opportunity to interview the hiring manager. You can ask questions about what you did well and what you did poorly and improve your chances in the future. This is a massive opportunity for a job seeker that is hard to get any other way. Also keep in mind that these rejections that are done face to face are done that way because the candidate was in the final interview stages which means that they've passed all of the technical qualifications most of the culture fit qualifications and it comes down to really small details that can make or break a decision. Knowing those details helps you improve for the future because if you just okay thanks and hang up and move on you're likely to make the same mistakes at the next company when you get that far.

Also, this is just complete speculation, but considering that companies are having a really hard time to find talent and not just technical talent but culture fit talent this could be an interesting interview technique. Because how you handle rejection and disappointment is it a very important factor when fitting in with a company. Because when you were at the final stage of an interview that company will keep you in mind for future positions because you've passed all the other tests. So it wouldn't shock me that some companies would consider doing this and seeing how the rejection is handled see if they get questions back see if they can maintain a dialogue and then ask you if it's okay to keep you in mind for future positions because you know they have regular hirings every few weeks. Depending on the candidates response it could be they come back and they're actually prepared to offer them a job in a week or two.

Because we underestimate in current culture the ability to handle disappointment and rejection in a way that allows you to retain your poise and demeanor throughout it. Every aspect of your life rejection is a thing you will have to deal with and it companies rejection can be especially disappointing with talented people because they invest a lot of themselves in what a project they're working on. If you can't handle having a constructive discussion when you're restricted for a job how will you handle having a constructive discussion when you've spent 6 months on some new innovative feature you've invested a lot of time into and management decides to kill it off because they want to go in another direction. That's a very real thing and I've seen people handle it gracefully and I've seen people totally lose their shit over it. Guess which one I want to work with and bolsters the team?