[helboi4]

I just had my new therapist yesterday telling me

"doesn't it feel good to be consistent and achieve things" and I'm like yeah no shit.

"so you need to be consistent with something" yeah that's my problem dawg.

"what's the feeling you get when you want to quit?" it just happens that my life falls apart or I get really into sth else. does nobody else just lose track of all the bricks required to do things sometimes?

"it will eventually not become effort to do these things" no sir I can tell you from experience that it NEVER becomes natural for me to be organised and motivated. It takes substantial effort for me just to use a diary, which apparently is what is supposed to make me organised. Sometimes it becomes easiER because I have a streak of good habits, but it can fall apart at any moment because it's all a precarious conscious effort.

"that's because you've never stuck to anything long enough" i've stuck to different things for different lengths of time, at what point are you suggesting this actually starts working?

God I hate therapists. I sure do hope I actually have ADHD. Otherwise I'm fucked.

[alpaca128]

It sounds like your therapist is in the wrong profession.

I've interacted with four different ones so far, and while the value I got out of them varied greatly I think none of them would ever say BS like that.

> I sure do hope I actually have ADHD

I hope whoever tests you is not like the ADHD "specialist" I had to deal with. Knowingly swapped symptoms and cause in the final report for whatever reason, and made terrible jokes that indicated he either doesn't know the basics I could read on Wikipedia or just already made up his mind beforehand. Absolutely fantastic when it comes to disorders subtle enough that you even question yourself sometimes.

[hirvi74]

> It sounds like your therapist is in the wrong profession.

It's like all professions. Most have no business being there. And if Pareto was right, then 20% of the therapist make up for the other 80%.

[helboi4]

Honestly I've had a few and I've had much much worse. Especially as someone LGBT they can be downright offensive and oblivious.

[SleepilyLimping]

It's always uncomfortable with a new therapist because they lack the context to know what you're going through, for how long, and the factors that are affecting it. I've seen mine for over a decade at this point, and when I talk to people about their potential growing pains when they're seeking out help, a lot of it is a reminder that you have to create that context/history with them over time.

It seems like yours is more comfortable making suppositions without the historical context, which sucks to hear and is pretty exhausting.

[helboi4]

Yeah, most therapists have pissed me off because its infuriating having to teach a so called expert how to understand you at a premium price. I find it ludicrous that they'd be able to tell me anything about myself that I don't know or that my friends couldn't point out to me, because I'm not exactly someone who struggles to analyse myself. I'm not unfamiliar with journalling, I have read tons of stuf about psychology and I'm not afraid to confront these things. I have therefore quit all therapy I've tried after a couple months tops because I can't justify paying to see how it goes. However, I am trying it again now because I am paying nothing now because of insurance. So even if I'm skeptical I lose nothing. So hopefully I'll get to the point of them having enough context to be helpful and can assess it properly this time.

[alpaca128]

> I can't justify paying to see how it goes

YMMV but the best therapist I've met so far already felt more understanding and productive in the first hour than others in months, I think if it's going nowhere after a couple sessions that might not change any time soon.

[prometheus76]

Find someone that understands ADHD (even better if they have it too). This is just more gaslighting from people who can't comprehend that other people might not be wired the same.