| Hey, best of luck to you both. I've been there with close family members and cancer. It's no fun at all. Easily the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life was just to care and watch. Make sure to grab family and friends to help out. The want to help out, most of the time, at least. I know it's hard to ask, but make sure to do it anyways. And yeah, standard generic advice to take care of yourself too. I hated that advice, as there just was never any time to do so. One thing that helped was to schedule that 'me' time in and make others aware of it. If you put it on the schedule, you'll have a better chance of taking it. Two tips with MDs: 1) Carry and use a notebook in all MD interactions. Just a simple journal is all. Time, medications given, dosages, MD administering, etc. It's a good back up to have, sure, but you'll likely never use it. The real power is when MDs see you writing things down. They take you more seriously and they take themselves more seriously. I think they think that you'll sue now and have some proof. But who knows. 2) If you're in for a long term treatment (1+ nights) put a big bowl of candy outside the door. Nurses etc. will stop by more often to check up on things and generally seem to like you more. Consider putting cigarettes in there too, depending on if your nurses smoke. Then they will really like you and go above and beyond. Again, best of luck to you both. FUCK cancer. |