[yungporko]

i also experienced bullying from a parental figure and quickly enter fight or flight mode as a result, which for me almost always leans towards fight. unfortunately for me that does not work well at all in office environments where you're supposed to be excessively fake and friendly and rely on passive aggression.

in the past i've ended up snapping at coworkers and saying stuff like "either tell me what your problem is or keep your bitchy comments to yourself" which obviously makes me the aggressor in the eyes of management. of course by the time i go back to "normal mode" and think about whether it's better to bite my tongue rather than say anything, i've already said it.

[orwin]

Wow, try to change team. Is he working at the same level as you?

I only know 1 ex-coworker that was passive aggressive, and he was one of my managers, along with two other fake-friendly managers who were mostly inofensive. Luckily I wasn't the first target, and well, he targeted the most competent dev in the building, who also was a tad too honest. Didn't ended well, and by the time is axe went for my head, my product was mostly done and I was ready to go.