[boringuser2]

You can't force a social group to be accepting of people.

'Bullied' or not, these people will be scarred by being rejected from the social group in any context that they have interactions with their peers. There will always be people who are rejected by their social group for various reasons.

It's extremely jarring because in ancient times it generally foretold literal death. I remember it feeling like that sometimes.

[em-bee]

You can't force a social group to be accepting of people

i disagree with that. you can teach people to be accepting of others. doing just that in my opinion is exactly one of the jobs of school.

[copperx]

You definitely cannot teach people to be accepting of others. However, a school should force them to be civil and even pleasant toward all people during school hours.

[em-bee]

really? on what basis do you make that claim? being accepting of others is the basis of our society. (we can't have a society if we don't learn how to accept others in that society)

claiming that this can't be learned is defeatist, and decidedly not helpful.

on the other hand, i don't believe you can force behavior on people against their will. they need to learn the behavior so that they actually want to behave like that.