[aurareturn]

> Also try lifting weights.

100% on this. Exercising, especially lifting weights, feels like you're improving yourself after every single session. You will literally see the difference in the mirror.

It's something that you can control. You can't always control how lucky or successful you are in your career. But you can always control your exercising. Once you improve the way you look, you start to feel better and people will also see you as more confident. Slowly, you'll get more opportunities.

Tldr; control what you can first which is your body, and the things you can't control will slowly get better.

[herbst]

On the same note, control what you can control can also mean to change your environment and lifestyle if that is what makes you depressive.

Sports, even more weight lifting, have not helped me in any way. If anything it established a wrong body image of myself. Something I never wanted to be or look like. Self-Confidence based on looks sounds fragil and very risky to me.

It's no magic cure and if you sell it as one people might get sad if it doesn't work for them.

[aurareturn]

>Sports, even more weight lifting, have not helped me in any way. If anything it established a wrong body image of myself. Something I never wanted to be or look like. Self-Confidence based on looks sounds fragil and very risky to me.

It's done the opposite for me. I used to have lower self-esteem. Once I got into shape and visible muscles through shirts, suddenly everyone is nicer to me. Girls are talking to me more. Men are nicer. No bullying.

I quit weed and started lifting weights at the same time. When combined, these two decisions have done wonders for my mental health.

[herbst]

Glad to hear it worked for you. I totally get where you are coming from, but people are not nicer because you look better but because you approach them differently with your additional self esteem.

You definitely wouldn't need muscles for that. Getting to love yourself has the very same effect.

[aurareturn]

You'd be surprised. Girls definitely notice the muscles. :)

[herbst]

Did you learn to love yourself trough this is the real question :)

[aurareturn]

It didn't matter. Girls would stare when I walk around. That's never happened to me before lifting. Of course that boosts my confidence which exudes even more confidence.

You know the joke where people teach you how to be attractive and the first thing you need is "be handsome"? It's similar to lifting weights. You only get the confidence after people find you attractive.