[herbst]

You are talking specifically about the male experience.

As 'female' it doesn't matter how often I use the app, if my profile attracts enough males I get matches and ice breakers all day long. If I accidentally open the app after 2 months it just gets more.

I don't need to match or look out. I get nice and stupid messages in mailbox and can choose from them.

If I go to match 80% (made up but realistic number) of the profiles shown already matched with me.

The apps don't want me to buy anything, they nag me for my time.

I could go on. By design I will only see the most successful or 'aggresive' profiles and nothing else.

[leach]

This is very true, I've never used a dating app as the opposite sex so I'm not sure what their experience is like. This definitely sounds about right though.

Makes sense that attention is what they want from you, and how the experience compares to that of an average dude on it.

I suppose I'm forgetting other experiences too, I guess I follow the two "rules" of dating apps because as a dude I get a decent amount of matches. Still I don't like the dating apps, maybe I just yearn for something more real I'm not sure.