[AnimalMuppet]

You're going to have losses. Lost free time, lost sleep, lost freedom. The losses are real. But don't spend so much time focused on the losses that you miss the gains. Be there for your child. Be there mentally, not off thinking about how much you'd like to have back the free time you used to have. Don't miss the joy of having this child because you're too busy looking at the losses.

Consider hiring a housekeeper. It's a great way to support your wife. Yeah, you need to up your game in terms of helping around the house, too, but if you can afford it, get mom some help, even if only for the first N months.