[intothemild]

> "I am really burnt out and want to take the day off to go skiing" once in a while, I become the team pariah.

I'm gonna say to my 7 year old daughter "hey I read this comment on hackernews .. so sorry daddy won't be there to deal with you.. cause I'm like burnt out, so I'm gonna go skiing, take care of yourself"

[_huayra_]

This is exactly the "holier than thou" attitude I was talking about. This is the 21st century and except in extremely rare situations (for which I can't even come up with an example, tbh), kids are a choice. Having the responsibility to take care of kids is a consequence of that choice.

It's not a bad choice, but treating the consequences of that choice as a reason for slacking at work as being more valid than others when the outcome to the team is the same (i.e. less time doing work) is the issue.

[dwaltrip]

Your job is just as important to you as your daughter?