[Muromec]

>And with HR it can be the same. If the HR have the guidelines of making the employes happy - then you absolutely can share information with them

It can be, but it requires a skill of reading the room and knowing nuances in a situation of information asymmetry. The combination of information asymmetry and hr people, being agents of the big corp and not caring about the outcome for you is what makes it problematic.

> you absolutely can share information with them, making planning easier

if they company has a clear policy and is known for following it -- sure. otherwise it's "x days off for personal reasons".

[lukan]

Yes it depends. But the thing with a birth is, that the day is not clearly defined. Which is common knowledge and works in the companies I know(in germany though). With - when it is time, he needs to leaves that moment.

But when you say "x days off for personal reasons" - they would like a date.