[bongodongobob]

I don't think treating dating like a job interview is a good idea unless you are interviewing them. You can either put your personality out there and be rejected or you can fake it, and then when you do out your actual self out there get rejected later down the road.

The choice is yours!

[borski]

I agreed with your first comment, but this isn’t quite fair. People put their best foot forward not because they are lying or pretending their negative qualities don’t exist, but because showing the positive ones can often lead someone to overlook and accept the negative ones, whereas leading with the negative rarely works the other way around.

You dress up for interviews, more than you would to go get a coffee, and likely more than an average day at the office. Is that lying?

People also dress up for dates. They wear makeup and nice shoes. They’re not liars; they’re dating.

[funnym0nk3y]

I always wondered (and still do) what people feel when they dress up to date. I've always thought of it as hiding my true personality. Showing someone different. Playing a role. Does everyone feel like that?

[borski]

Nope. I don’t spend every day walking around in my best threads. But I do spend some time doing it, and it feels special and important, and it shows I respect the occasion and the other party enough to put in the work. Moreover, it shows that I’m willing to put in the work for something I might care about. None of those are lies.

And all of that makes an impression before anyone has said a word.

[hotpotamus]

I'll note that both your options there end in rejection.