[awwstn]

based on everything tim has written that shows extreme self-awareness about his working/productivity style, and the fact that he makes a lot of money for his family by doing occasional multi-day binges of work, i think it's fair to give him the benefit of the doubt that they have a system that allows him to show up for his family much of the time while also maintaining his output of work

[justinator]

Three cheers for being a functional workaholic. May we all aspire to such selfishness.

[wernercd]

Some people have to make sacrifices for their families - making money takes time? effort? sacrifice? ZOMG! HOW DARE HE!

Selfishness? sacrificing for family - both on the fathers side to provide but also on the mothers side to take care of the fort?

That's not selfishness. That's called being a good father. husband. wife. mother.

[blamestross]

The problem is that it isn't him making the sacrifice, it's his family.

[pavel_lishin]

We have absolutely no idea what their family dynamic is. We're armchair quarterbacking a whole marriage.

[theossuary]

I'm not sure why you're defending them when we have no idea what their family dynamic is?

[ETH_start]

A good explanation for why one would defend him was given earlier:

based on everything tim has written that shows extreme self-awareness about his working/productivity style, and the fact that he makes a lot of money for his family by doing occasional multi-day binges of work, i think it's fair to give him the benefit of the doubt

Giving people the benefit of the doubt makes the world a better place.

[Nevermark]

The virtues of “innocent until proven guilty” and being “charitable” about interpreting situations we have no business or ability to judge?

Self-deprecating humorous self-awareness is also a trifecta of positive signals to those that pick up on those frequencies.

[wernercd]

"it isn't him making the sacrifice" lol

So you think him not spending time with family isn't the same sacrifice that families around the world make every day in and out isn't a sacrifice?

Why do you think it's not a sacrifice? Because he enjoys his job? because it's "fun" and "entertaining"?

The problem here is that he is making a sacrifice - the sacrifice of giving his time to a career to provide for his family.

Let me ask you an honest question... if he spent that 40 hours in a cubicle and an addition 10 hours commuting to make less... would you consider that not a sacrifice? Of course you'd consider that a sacrifice - because he'd be giving his time to provide for his family.

So in this situation... he's giving his time to provide for his family.

Why does the fact he enjoys it/"it's playing with toys" challenge the fact that he's sacrificing his time to provide for family? Is it the "toy" aspect? Working from home? Jealousy about how lucky he is?

[DrSiemer]

Tim does not seem like the kind of person who would do something like that without the full support of his family.

I know people who spend most of the year away from their family and who are not bad parents. Sometimes sacrifices must be made to make things grow and invest in the future. Don't be so easy to judge.