[pavel_lishin]

This is a good point. Not everyone immediately bonds with a newborn, either father or mother. If you're not feeling something you think you're supposed to be feeling, that's not unusual.

And they definitely get fun later on - but you'd be surprised at both how long it takes, and at the fun things you can find pretty early on.

[twojobsoneboss]

Totally. I expected to feel this intense love that would help with the difficulty of it all, and it didn’t happen.

I also didn’t get any kind of surge of extra energy driven by this great new responsibility- you’ll have to make do with what you have folks.

I do love the baby a lot but I barely think about her when I’m not with her, unlike her mom which thinks about her all the time

[iteria]

Very late to this, but it will come. You will bond with your child and not even realize it. I would have said that I wasn't bonded with my child. In fact, she kind of annoyed me. Then I sent her away for a month to get a break. Suddenly everything fell apart for me emotionally. Turned out I could not think avout her when I was working etc because I was very comfortable with the people she was in the care of. Now that she was with people I really trusted, but several hours away withoit the ability to a check in on her whenever I wanted, it made me realize how very bonded I was to her.

I remember walking to her room out of habit and then laughing because of course she wouldn't be there. And then I'd do that 2 or 3 times a day every day. Other such absurdities.

I think that was a good experience for me because I still don't think about my kid very much when she's not around, but it doesn't mean I'm not attached to her.