[yed]

Having done both a shared shift nighttime schedule, and an alternating days nighttime schedule, I strongly recommend doing alternating days. Getting decent sleep every other day is a huge improvement over constant deprivation.

[legitster]

Agreed. Switching to formula made things significantly easier.

When a baby is first born there may be a "let's suffer together" mentality. Get that out of your head and focus on maximizing your collective energy.