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by SAI_Peregrinus 867 days ago
OP here: making the list is the point. Make it honestly. Knowing your own preferences is the important part, even if they're not things you'd admit in public. Even if they're things you want to change about yourself, or things you don't want to change about yourself but didn't know you wanted to keep. It's a way to discover part of who you are, and from there to decide how to continue. My lists won't be your lists. Sure, some things are probably identical (anyone who murdered their previous spouse is in the "no-go" list), but things like preferred physical traits are preferences that vary from person to person.