[Daviey]

I met my previous SO when we were both too young to be ready for what came next. As others have said, activities are a great way to find someone. We found each other doing Skydiving. Not nearly as exciting as it sounds, it was actually sat around waiting for the shitty weather to improve whilst drinking tea. But it was something we had in common and regularly did until we had kids... which we rushed into.

Now the kids are older, we both moved on. I've found my SO through work (different field, not tech) but through common work friends. We spend much more time engaging with each other, and is a much different relationship.

I think the main thing to look at is why you aren't finding someone. Are you open to it in your head? It might be worth getting some coaching for an outside perspective.