[miloignis]

At trivia at a bar as a part of a larger team composed of mutual friends. We went to multiple events as a part of the same group, became friends, then when it was clear there was mutual attraction, started going out. (we both decided to ask the other out, but we planned for different ends of the holidays, so my eventual wife beat me to the punch and made the first move.) I'll echo others advice that a large, regular, friendly, casual social group is key (and beyond just a means to an end, can/should be very fun and fulfilling in itself!) My friends/regular social events helped me through a bad breakup, and friend-of-a-friend at a regular social event is how I eventually found my wife!

[yfh]

I guess that's my problem, I don't have a lots of friends. Don't know how to make them. And I work from home so that's one avenue closed.