[rakoo]

That's not how it works at all (see, I can do exactly the same).

1) I, as an admin, have never been pressured by anyone to do anything and can federate with whoever I want. Thousands of instances are the same. The only ones who are pressured are the biggest ones, who also happen to host the worst content (xenophobic, racist, gore, pedo content).

2) You are not owed an audience. Not everyone wants to ear what you have to say. Moderation at scale needs to happen if we want marginalized communities to thrive, and unfortunately since the internet is mostly hostile to those the most efficient way to do this is to block. But if you're not ok with the blocking policy of your instance, change it. That's the whole point of federation. You'd do the same with Nostr: you disconnect from a relay if you don't like what comes from them, connect to another one, except with Nostr you can't totally be sure the bad content will be filtered out.