Nope. I only expect that my coworkers and I come to agreements on how we will function as a team (read: establish roles and processes) and then make a reasonable effort to stick to what is agreed upon, while discussing any emerging need for changes along the way.
These agreements should take everyone's individuality into account to find a balance or compromise in terms of personal preference and overall comfort (not to mention meeting the goals of the team from technical and business perspectives) which everyone involved finds acceptable.
My comfort is no more or less important than that of others.
There's a subtle difference. OP is saying "I'm disabled and I can't/need help to do X"
The response is "disabled people don't need accommodation, you should just act like you're not disabled no matter the personal cost"
The difference is between asking for help and setting boundaries for what you can tolerate, and telling someone else they're a bad person for being disabled.
One is reasonable, if annoying. The other is a direct attack on an individual.
In all countries of the EU, if you are diagnosed as autistic, you get a disabled passport just as any other disability.
40% disability is very common for diagnosed autistic people, meaning they are categorized with the same amount of impact on their wellbeing as crippled, wheelchaired, or mentally impacted people.
So I think the discussion and comparison that calamari4056 started is very well reasoned and makes sense in the context of "what society expects of you" vs "what you can expect of society".
I'm not sure why you're implying that disabled is a dirty word. That's the word that pretty much every disabled person uses to describe a disability. It's the official legal term for the same.
And yeah, it's a personal attack when you tell someone they're a bad person for having a disability that inconveniences you.
These agreements should take everyone's individuality into account to find a balance or compromise in terms of personal preference and overall comfort (not to mention meeting the goals of the team from technical and business perspectives) which everyone involved finds acceptable.
My comfort is no more or less important than that of others.