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by throwalone 883 days ago
I subscribe to a particular framework for understanding human behavior. It's not perfect, but I find it enlightening as empirically it approximates reality well enough to be useful.

Every human has six needs: certainty, variety (uncertainty), significance, love (or connection, if they can't find love), growth and contributing. Everyone looks for all of these, they just rank their importance differently.

Find people who have 2-3 same needs ranked at the top or close to the top. I feel like your search for truth likely means you value certainty above all else (certainly above love), likely with significance closely following.

It's ok to leave people behind who don't have the same goals as you. Shakespeare said we're all actors with our entrances and exits, and I agree. Life is ever-changing.

Now on the more constructive side, why is truth the single most important value to you?

Do you value truth more than you value love? Health? Happiness? Passion? Growth? Make a list of the values you have and force rank them. Then think about what it takes to feel those values according to you. Do you get "truth" when you catch someone lying or when you strictly follow laws/a code? Truth can mean different things to different people. Then reflect on which values you actually want to pursue. I used to pursue anger because it made me feel powerful, righteous and driven. Now it's nowhere to be seen on my list.

Finally, you'll never outperform your belief system. If you want different results, change your beliefs. But belief systems are just stories we tell ourselves. It's mostly bullshit when we're being honest with ourselves (it's "BS" after all...) Is it really true that you searched truth when others didn't? Change your story, change your life.

It's hard to distill all of this into a HN comment but hopefully this is net helpful rather than unhelpful... Wishing you the very best journey ahead