[gumby]

It helps to speak a language also spoken by the people you're talking with. It helps to wear a skirt or pants while shopping in the grocery store.

There's a continuum.

[dotcoma]

Not sure I understand what you mean. Can you please try to make it clearer to me? Thanks.

[gumby]

> there’s absolutely no need to do the things other people do, ever.

For example you and I cannot have this exchange of comments without using a language we both speak. That's an example of doing things other people do, whether you want to or not, in order to achieve your own goals.