[pizzafeelsright]

Taking away cell phones, taking off doors, physical punishment are a few. I don't agree with them all of these myself but unchecked behavior without corrective action leads to more outbursts and potentially violent reactions.

If you've got an eight year old that has a cell phone because the birth mother gave them one you cannot take it away. Leverage allows for better negotiating.

[em-bee]

yup, taking away the computer from my kids (they have no phones) until they clean up their room works for a 6 year old and a 12 year old.

there should be a law that mobile phones for children should not be allowed without parental/guardian guidance and supervision. which would give foster parents the right to control that.

[pizzafeelsright]

I doubt more law is the solution.

Aligned incentives with effective consequences has done me well.

[em-bee]

of course. i was only talking about preventing or overriding rules that don't allow foster parents to take away a childs phone.

for some issues like this appropriate laws are helpful, for others more flexibility is needed.