[Fnoord]

Broken or not depends on context and who you ask. In the end we are all HR and as many of us must function in society. Add to that that there's an abundance of jobs due to babyboomers quitting the workforce (though less in USA according to Peter Zeihan) and there is a large benefit having people in general function in society.

My daughter is 5 y.o. and has a best friend on school. Our daughter is undiagnosed for now, we both are. I get the feeling the mother of her best friend isn't happy with them being best friends. Why? Fear of being excluded, I suspect.

Right now I'm unemployed since December and the lack of employed role model for my kids is thus far more harmful than lack of income (though latter will become relevant again within time).

[h0l0cube]

When I was 18, I attended an elective subject at college about "Professional communication". It was the first time I learnt that body language is even a thing. There's definitely courses to help with communication skills, particularly in a professional context, though I imagine the quality of said courses would vary dramatically. Not to mention there's a whole cottage industry of unqualified 'life coaches', 'style coaches', and so on, though their value is probably even more variable. I'm not sure if they could help employability, but such services are available to everyone.

[Fnoord]

I got help. Not when I was 18 when I needed it (could not finish my education), or at the very least nothing of substance but with a severe lack of empathy. As an adult, as part of my autism diagnosis was therapy understanding autism. That was fascinating, it helped me a lot. I also followed an adult education aimed at people with autism. It didn't fully align with my interests so I had to find something related to that within the job market. I ended up with a job within that field, with 3 one year contracts. Because I already was deemed 100% unemployed the org got benefits for contracting me. Unfortunately, my neighbors complained about our kids noise and even accused me of being a child predator/rapist. The former (regarding the noise) being truth though something we do try to minimize and the latter BS but also my worst nightmare before becoming a parent. I ended up with a burnout (and on the brink of a psychosis) and slowly got back to working full-time. I reported myself 75% better, but unfortunately my contract didn't get renewed (that sword of Damocles was apparent back when I got the burnout, so it was of little surprise).

The day I got unemployed I had to report to the government employment agency, and the above was basically not believed. I feel misunderstood. I already mentioned the story truthful though omitting some personal details, so I'd like to add the art of cooking a dinner as well as programming are some of the most awesome things one can perform, in my opinion. But because of the endless possibilities and the many small steps I can only perform very simple, basic, archaic instruction sets.

[h0l0cube]

You neighbors sound like trash. That sounds like a tough situation, and it's a small mercy that you have at least the financial support of the government. Autistic burnout is real, and I've cumulatively spent years out of work because of it—once again I was fortunate to have the financial buffer. I eventually got to a better place, but not before being in the workforce again. If it helps to talk, I've put my Slowly ID in my bio for a few days