[frumper]

I know quite a few married couples that will rarely discuss finances with each other, they definitely won't combine money aside from transferring each other payments through Venmo. I've seen one Venmo money for dinner and later that night the other will Venmo money back for ice cream. It's bonkers to me and my wife. Some of them have no idea how much debt/savings each other have. That sounds like one rough patch from a disaster.