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by smt88 892 days ago
This is very normal. Your kids won't need nearly as much of your time in a few years and you'll have time for hobbies again. Enjoy how much time you're spending with them now and have faith that you'll be "interesting" again when you have fewer demands from family life.
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This a fair point, one that my wife always makes to me. I guess I just feel like I can do better? I know other dads who have plenty of time consuming hobbies -- they seem to fit it all in, why can't I?
Don't compare yourself to others on a single variable, like hobby time, when you'll never know what all the other variables look like. They may spend less time with kids, put more of the parenting on partners/childcare, have more money, work less, do fewer chores, etc. I personally don't know any dads with kids under 5 that have time for hobbies.