[sokoloff]

I want my kids to go where they want to go. If that happens to be Ivy, so be it. If that happens to be MIT/Caltech/Stanford, so be it.

When parents lament or worry about their kids not being able to get into Ivy League schools, I think it's less about those specific eight institutions and more about whatever selective college they might want to attend.

[rayiner]

In my culture—which I think is right on this—individuals are subordinate to the family. I want my kids to go to an Ivy (or in the case of my eldest son, a service academy) because those are important to success in business and politics, and that’s what I want my kids to pursue—for the success of the family unit. That doesn’t mean I want to go to one, or regret not having gone to one—what I want for my kids is quite independent of what I want myself.