[Aloha]

'giving people what they want' is not zero sum, nor is it uniform.

While I don't agree with the parent commenter, his message can be understood in multiple ways.

Look at me and my partners - I have lots of executive function, but little empathy, my wife has lots of empathy, but not as much executive function. She provides me an emotional sink when I need one, and I provide here stability and planning - we're both giving and taking from each other freely, but those are things we each have in excess. For our other partner we both provide him a level of support that he's on the right path, and a place to vent excess feelings (which she can take because of her empathy, and I can take because of my lack of empathy).

If I look thru my social network, I can see similar pairings - people give me things that I lack, and I give them the things I have in excess. People who end up being net takers, don't end up sticking around long (they make themselves unwelcome), and net givers end up burning themselves out - you need to keep things in balance.