[antisthenes]

This is why most friends are made in high school and college.

The difference is very stark. I probably made 1-2 good friends in the _10 years_ after college, compared to 30+ friends in the 10 years prior to that. Luckily, I managed to keep most friends from before starting work.

Full time work is an absolute black hole of time and relationships.

People who don't have good networks _before_ they start full time work are absolutely boned and I don't think there's an easy solution.