[hombre_fatal]

> I have a bone to pick when people are inconsistent with themselves, using daycare as an example when people have cheaper alternatives, and then have the gall to complain.

Those aren't inconsistencies. You're just asking clarifying questions and getting more information about their preferences.

"Man, it's hard making ends meet [in their head: without living with my parents or without working at the local coal mine or working overtime or doing all sorts of things I don't prefer]".

"You know, you could work at the local coal mine [or work overtime or do all sorts of things you can insert here]."

"But I don't want to."

"Heh, gotcha. So you don't care about ends not meeting very much!"

You just don't share their preferences and think you have a bone to pick with them over it. Because you prefer something, you might be assigning zero cost to it where others don't.