[busterarm]

Employers feel like they've been forced into remote work and salary creep by covid and faangs. They feel so powerless that any pushback from a potential employee makes them think they're going to have a permanent headache working with you.

The way things are you'd have much better luck negotiating a salary review after a six month probation or something.

[yieldcrv]

yes, this was objectively an L for me and in hindsight I should not have negotiated a single aspect of the position, so take notes everyone

California, by the way.

[busterarm]

Not trying to rub it in, sorry. I don't actually think you did anything wrong either. Companies are just being assholes right now.

[yieldcrv]

you’re fine, thats not what you did but I’d much prefer that to the unquantified optimism people

many people, including engineers, are obsessed with looking for a silver lining when the reality is that I lost all my leverage and every new recruiter call is at least a month and a half from new money hitting my bank account, if everything goes perfectly.

[busterarm]

hang in there. I'll be rooting for you.