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by spondylosaurus 901 days ago
It's not the most common, but some people do go by they/them and still use certain gendered terms like boyfriend/girlfriend where appropriate. (Full disclosure that I'm one of them, lol.)

I think part of it is that there isn't a great neutral word to take its place. "Partner" is probably the best option overall, but it can mean anything from "person I've been married to for 15 years" to "person with whom I opened an LLC," whereas boy/girlfriend is pretty specific. And the only neutral term of that specificity I've seen proposed is "joyfriend," which I find unbearably silly because I'm not 15 years old :P