[squigz]

Nobody's making the case for enabling bad choices - I just don't think being an asshole is the only alternative.

I also don't know anyone in a similar situation who isn't acutely aware of the situation - they don't need their friends constantly giving them the most obvious advice in the world, they need support.

[darkerside]

If you're going through a tough time and need compassion, don't mistake that for thinking everybody in every situation always needs compassion

[squigz]

I don't think I said that. Likewise, though, if you're too blind to notice your own bad behavior, don't mistake that for everyone else being too blind to notice their own behavior.

I'm also not really sure why you're playing this card, since I referenced other people in my previous comment... but oh well.

[darkerside]

I agree you didn't say that. It just felt relevant to share my perspective there.

Your friends may very well all fall into the category you describe. There exist nonzero scenarios where people don't.

[bradjohnson]

Counterpoint: Literally nobody needs 'darkerside' from hackernews to tell them to "get a fucking job".

[darkerside]

I can read between the lines... Get a job Brad! :-D

[bradjohnson]

I'm overburdened with employment already, unfortunately, but duly noted.