Look around you. Is the building you're in falling down? Or is it standing still? Are the things on your desk bouncing about, or are they just sitting there? Are the atoms in your body fissioning, or are you still here? Stable systems are extremely common. The world would be a much more violent place to live in if they weren't.
And it makes sense that stable points exist. That means there's a well somewhere in the potential (and the stable point is at the bottom of the well). It seems reasonable that if you didn't know anything about the potential of a system, you might suppose it has at least one squiggle somewhere, and in that squiggle you'll find your equilibrium.
Edit: I guess actually it's not so obvious in the higher dimensional case since you can have saddles. I'd have to go back and look at my nonlinear diffeq book to see, but there might be some topological result (similar to the hairy ball theorem) that explains it, at least for compact configuration spaces.
I think your explanation only seems clear because you’re eliding some quite relevant detail
> Look around you. Is the building you're in falling down?
You can say it’s stable, or that the building is in the act of slowly falling down without human input (maintenance). It’s a bit misleading to sneak in time scale.
> Are the things on your desk bouncing about, or are they just sitting there?
At a small enough scale bits of the desk are bouncing around due to thermal energy. Also same as the house, your desk will eventually decay into dust due to that bouncing.
> Are the atoms in your body fissioning, or are you still there?
This one is actually stable.
The other two systems are better characterized as metastable - they appear stable at certain time and length scales. In fact metastability can be pretty tricky to explain, and sometimes requires a detour into thermodynamics or other fields (e.g. biology if you’re asking why a person’s body seems rather stable).
Sure but the point is in a closed system, thermodynamic fluctuations alone are going to take eons to make your house fall down. What will actually get it is that the system is not fully closed, and eventually something from outside the system will give it the activation energy needed to escape the well it's in (e.g. a windstorm causing a tree to fall on it). But it's useful and practical to think of that larger system as decomposing into a product of pretty much independent systems (until it isn't).
The point is wells exist and are common in day-to-day life, including ones that are deep enough that things don't randomly thermodynamically pop out of them. If something is sitting on your desk when you go to bed, you can be pretty certain it'll be there in the morning too. The scale of the well is orders of magnitude larger than the thermal fluctuations, even if eventually a fluctuation could excite your computer monitor to suddenly vaporize. The atoms in your body and all matter will eventually decay to nothing too, but it's not useful to think about that.
And even if it's metastable, as long as the system stays inside the well, the potential is locally quadratic. So you see oscillations around the equilibrium in the meantime.
Almost all of reality isnt day-to-day life --- indeed what that describes is, in many ways, exactly the sort of illusions of stability that admit cute mathematical analysis.
You're weighting parts of reality by their relevance to a us at a particular place and time -- without such prejudice you find that very little admits of this sort of cute mathematical description.
And that which does is now pretty exhausted as far as research goes. Describing beds is not a pressing theoretical quesiton
Describing organic systems, say is -- chaotic organic development across trillions of cells. There are no SHOs there
This is where we need to decide if we're doing physics or philosophy. Physics is about answering specific, fairly practical questions, and the questions tell you what parts of reality you can afford to ignore. If you want to get at the true nature of things in a metaphysically satisfying sense, physics will always disappoint you.
Is it part of the essential nature of a building to collapse? Sure, I suppose, as with all things. But I'm only going to be in this this coffee shop for another hour: to me, for my purposes, it's stable. If instead I were buying the building I'd want a much more detailed model that considered termites and the risk of earthquakes and all sorts of things, but I still wouldn't care about the date of the next ice age that will scour the landscape clean.
One thing to keep in mind is that our mathematical methods might as well be approximate, because we our measurements always will be. Precise calculations on fuzzy data are a waste of time. Not that there's anything wrong with philosophy! But it's not super relevant to understanding where harmonic oscillators are a useful model.
And it makes sense that stable points exist. That means there's a well somewhere in the potential (and the stable point is at the bottom of the well). It seems reasonable that if you didn't know anything about the potential of a system, you might suppose it has at least one squiggle somewhere, and in that squiggle you'll find your equilibrium.
Edit: I guess actually it's not so obvious in the higher dimensional case since you can have saddles. I'd have to go back and look at my nonlinear diffeq book to see, but there might be some topological result (similar to the hairy ball theorem) that explains it, at least for compact configuration spaces.