[gaws]

> - an xmpp server for chatting with friends

How did you convince them to use XMPP when, for so many, Discord is the "easier" option?

[OkayPhysicist]

Have nerdy friends? We used Mumble+XMPP for years until my (highly technically inclined) friend group merged with another substantially less-so one.

[gaws]

> Have nerdy friends?

Many nerdy people use Discord, unfortunately.