After a lot of back-and-forth some years ago, we settled on a third option: If the error bars would be too big (for whatever definition of "too big" we used back then), don't show the data and instead show a "not enough data points" message. Otherwise, if we were showing the data, show it without the error bars.
That is baldly justifying a feeling of superiority and authority over others. It's not your job to trick other people "for their own good". Present honest information, as accurately as possible, and let the chips fall where they may. Anything else is a road to disaster.
It seems like the options are:
- no error bars which mislead everyone
- error bars which confuse some people and accurately inform others