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Indeed 'self-help' information by itself won't do anything. Getting disciplined = (behavioural) lifestyle changes.
It's like reading about different types of exercises. Postponing it, not doing it. Yet the bar is so low to do a SINGLE bodyweight squat (while brushing teeth, waiting for something in the kitchen etc). Do one everyday. When you do one, you will do multiple. And just like exercise; Doing almost anything is more important than doing the 'right' thing. One element is to get into the habit of building smaller habbits. These are to overcome the smallest resistance, by combining, replacing, or removing activities / triggers; * saying 'do it now' (out loud) to yourself anytime you realize your are postponing
* 'just do it' and 'the obstacle is the way' are what i use to overcome my social angst for silly things. (including the embarrassmentfor this cheesyness :D)
* 'weather is irrelevant'; ALWAYS go out for a walk in the morning, get coffee or bring it. This will have lasting effects for the rest of the day.
* When going to bed leave your phone in the next room. (it's easier at this time then when you are on it)
* Having internet free time (router off, phone in a different room); you can read something slower a (e)book, or listen to downloaded podcasts on a non connected device
* find better interests / hobbies (higher value / exciting / soothing)
* do some yoga / stretching while watching anything
* take the stairs instead of an elevator, add some extra floors.
* set just 5 mins for any task. you might end up doing more, but at least you started.
* (video)call someone you like on a regular schedule, or do something together (Virtually or otherwise) Bigger intervention ideas;
- actually get into a different pattern for a week or longer; without internet, stay with someone else, or stay at home but clean the entire place. Go outside 3 times a day. Do light exercises. Eat different food.
- talk to a psychologist, even if it's a one time thing. You can't outsource YOUR passiveness, to someone else (a doctor or a product). Start small, with both the physical and mental. Small changes may not overcome your bigger issues / fears, doing SOMETHING regularly is the first step. You might get to a slightly better state from where you can make new decisions. Im sympathetic to your feelign that it might be ADHD - and you might need help for that. But I feel like you will need to make a start yourself anyway |