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by nick__m 927 days ago
The advice works in certain circumstances, but it is completely useless in more extreme situations…

The rest is probably off topic, but I need to vent…

My wife has/had (the scans after the experimental radiotherapy were clean and she is on Kiscaly) metastatic breast cancer. We are currently awaiting the results of the third follow-up CT-PET scan and I find the experience nerve-wracking.

Before the metastasis, I used to be able to tell myself that those scans were a formality and adopted an optimistic view. However, now that experience has shown me that they are not a formality and that catastrophic results are a real possibility even after four years of quarterly scans, I find it impossible to adopt a positive outlook. We don’t know until they call and there is nothing we can do.

I don’t see anything in this article that could help with this situation. There are some truths like 17:

  …Chronic stress without recovery depletes energy reserves, leads to burnout and breakdown, and ultimately undermines performance.
But it’s a statement of fact, not a helpful suggestion.
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All the best to you and your wife.