[steve_adams_86]

In my family, my wife would get the house because although she has 5 degrees and a relatively good career with the federal government, I typically earn 2x more than she does. I can buy my own house if necessary. She can’t. It’s not for lack of trying. She earns more than all of her friends, and most of my friends for that matter. She would get the house because any other option would harm her and the kids.

This could have been the case for them as well. It seems likely to me. Getting the house when you have low income potential isn’t a “win”; it’s being thrown a life boat.

[corethree]

Why would it harm her kids? You can buy a house anytime according to uou. And why should she get the kids? She's better than you by virtue of you being male?

How about people make that judgement based off of evidence not gender.

Additionally my stance isn't that men should get everything. My stance is wealth should be divided according to contribution. Which is in alignment to what you're describing.

My point still stands though. For the overwhelming majority of people and likely munger, the house is the majority of wealth.

And the best case for the kids in this scenario is for the parents to divorce but allow charlie munger to still own half of the house and live in it. That's best for the kids. Best for the kids is not meeting his wife's demands of forcing him to move out and making her own daughter watch him become pathetically destitute. I would hate my own mother if she did that, I cannot respect that even in my own parent.

[steve_adams_86]

Right, it seems like we’re mostly on the same page.

I definitely don’t mean to imply my wife would get sole custody. I think both parents should be given equal opportunity to do their best, and anything else will inevitably harm the kids in some shape or form.

What I meant is that if my wife didn’t have adequate housing, it would be bad for her bad the kids on her time with them. If we separate, I could readily use my income and credit to find adequate housing in a way that she couldn’t. As such, finding some arrangement in which she keeps the house would be best for her financial situation and for the kids’ experience as well.

I definitely don’t think moms are entitled to more time or more wealth. I’d expect equal custody of our kids. The housing part is just a result of our particular situation; it would work fine for us. This might not work well at all for others, and if that’s the case, they should do something else. Hopefully that makes sense.