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by ramesh31 935 days ago
>Just slowwwly remove your touchpoints with them. Freeze them out. Go through other channels. If you do this right, the person will feel like you have just gradually drifted apart, but won't be able to pinpoint a clear cause.

Doesn't work if they're leading the project. This is also a very childish way of dealing with problems. Part of your job is to be an adult and learn how to work with people you don't like. Not how to avoid them. It's a critical skill to success in this industry.
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tikhonj 935 days ago
Sometimes the most effective way to work with a person is to work around them.

Always resorting to that isn't mature or professional, but neither is not recognizing when that's the best option.

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gemstones 935 days ago
Oh it's not good advice for everyone! If they're a lead on a team you must interface with, they fall into my "you must work with them" bucket, and then the article is pretty good advice.

Eh, I disagree that it's childish advice! It works out pretty well for everyone except the person being frozen out - no matter if you're a child or an adult.

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johnnyanmac 935 days ago
>Eh, I disagree that it's childish advice! It works out pretty well for everyone except the person being frozen out

then that person posts on hacker news why no one seems to want to "be an adult" , how they are blocked on tasks due to slow communication, and overall feel the workplace is hostile.

And the chain of apathy continues. And people wonder why work is so miserable. PAy can be a factor, but it usually isn't in tech.

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