Yeah this kind of stuff makes my blood boil. One can shame and belt their kid into compliance, and it might even get them (barely, only if they're lucky) all the way through university but holy shit the lifelong damage of self loathing and burnout and broken relationships it creates is im-fucking-measurable.
Taking a neurological imbalance and turning it into a morality thing is abuse. Even if unintentional. This is real. Parents look for simple answers like "give em the strap" but how is that less reductive than "give em the pill"?
I brought up "the strap" in the comment I linked to. The sort of person who thinks ADHD is just a lack of discipline also tends to be nostalgic for a time when corporal punishment, including the use of straps and even paddles, was considered routine and even admirable. "Spare the rod and spoil the child" and that.
Taking a neurological imbalance and turning it into a morality thing is abuse. Even if unintentional. This is real. Parents look for simple answers like "give em the strap" but how is that less reductive than "give em the pill"?