[encoderer]

As a child you are taught to approach the street, look both ways, and don’t cross until after the cars have passed or if they are all stopped for you.

no confusion there.

[zenzen]

You mention living in the Bay Area, where right of way is clearly defined: https://california.public.law/codes/ca_veh_code_section_2195...

If you don’t want cars to stop for you the solution is easy, stay far enough back from the intersection so it’s clear you’re not trying to cross. Otherwise I will stop for you — it’s the law.

[encoderer]

im pretty sure that is part of local cross-walk codes nationwide, but the pedestrian entitlement is extreme here.

I find it to be boorish.