[xchip]

What stops you from fixing it?

[admissionsguy]

Negative mindset

[xchip]

That great, at least it is a blocker that depends on you and that you can control.

[sixothree]

Please though, we shouldn't pretend there aren't things we cannot fix that prevent us from not being lonely.

[admissionsguy]

This sentence has too many negations even for me.

[sixothree]

There are barriers to loneliness that cannot be addressed by the individual experiencing it.

And yes, it was poorly worded. It's early and I skipped caffeine this morning because of activity.

Regardless, some people might not "fit in" socially because of age, skin color, income, or what have you - compared to the demographics of where they are living. There can be barriers that they simply cannot fix themselves.

[xchip]

yeah, sure you cannot hang out with top models but maybe there is a space for you somewhere.

[xchip]

but surely that negative mindset is there for a good reason, it must give you something you value, otherwise you wouldn't have developed this mechanism

[ensocode]

good point. if you are successful it might be the feeling that people tend to always want to get something out of you which might be exhausting and a good reason to hide. Enjoy that!