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by all2 955 days ago
I closed mine out in about 2014 and never looked back.

I don't have many... any friends from my early life, specifically from school. In fact I haven't kept any friends from before 5 years ago. Maybe I'm a dick? Maybe people naturally drift apart? I dunno. It makes me wonder. I've never been great at maintaining relationships over time or distance.

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+1!

I've always thought I was weird like this. My partner has a ton of friends and works at maintaining friendships. I read all the time how humans are social animals and need a group of friends, etc etc. I've never felt this, and have come to accept that's just the way I am. I still often wonder if this is something I'll regret when I'm old, whether I'll be lonely... No idea.

I've come to realize that I do need a social structure, but somehow I've managed to not keep friends. Maybe even not have friends until recently? I don't know. The word friend is nebulous, and I tend to qualify friend as someone I would help bury a body. I only have a few of those now.
Not weird at all, but if you ever lose your partner (in one way or another), I hope you will have some close friends.
Can't remember the year, but I created a facebook account when it became possible to do so without invitation. A bit later, more people started to join and I got these friend requests, or whatever they were called. There was one in particular that stood out as uncomfortable, which made me think: is there anything I want to share with these people? It's going to sound phony. At which point I deleted my account. Never looked back. No need to, since there's still phone, email and text for more "personalized" conversation.

My SO created her account at the same time, and still uses it, and it has always looked terribly superficial to me. Keeping up appearances.