[graypegg]

Similar boat. Late 20s. I’ve missed out on so many opportunities due to my inability to focus and organize, and decades of being told “have you tried trying harder” left me with an anxiety that was stopping me from pursuing a medical solution for years.

There’s been a shift in how people interact with me now. It’s downplayed as something “quirky” by a lot of people. Out of any source of grief in my life, I can honestly point to my anxiety about retaining information and completing things fully has been the biggest source of pain for me. It’s hard to express that to people when they want to talk about how I should “learn about my adhd super powers” or “try this fun journaling method!”.

I kind of fear it’s the same refrain as “he’s just slow, he should try harder with an agenda” but with a new cushy coat of paint. “Have you just tried being happy instead?”