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by Onewildgamer 962 days ago
If someone humiliated me, I'd humiliate them back at that same moment if it was spiteful. If I had done something embarrassing then I'd try to laugh it off before giving someone else a chance to. If I couldn't do it at the moment because of some brain freeze, then comes meditation.

The situation will play in my mind several times regardless, analysing why I did what I did will usually give answers. If it was some failed comedy I'll say to myself better luck next time or if it was general lack of attention, I'll calm myself saying I need some sleep or if it was because of lack of exposure or skill then I say let's learn that before it happens again in public.

The key prerequisite to this form of meditation is to not attach a person to an incident. Separating yourself and putting yourself above that situation generally shields you from the emotions that lowers yourself. Another separation is separating the person who humiliated you with that situation, it shields you from brewing hatred towards that person. Both are equally important. It doesn't matter if it was from one person or many, mob usually catches the vibe and will follow it. Maintain sympathy and think of their pitiful upbringing, label them as such if you want to in general feel sorry for them but with care and sympathy. Then detach them from the situation and then address the issue with some examples I mentioned earlier.

This has worked for me several times, hope it helps.